A bridal shower is a great opportunity for friends and family to come together, have fun, eat cupcakes, play games and share gifts. But you don’t want the bride-to-be stressed out about doing all of these things with her friends! It’s your responsibility to be mindful of who you invite to this event. So, who do you invite to a bridal shower?
Your guest list can make or break your party—after all, if you are known as the “hostess with the mostest” then everyone will always ask you to host their parties! Try not to stress yourself out by thinking through what type of guests will help make your bridal shower stand out from others.
Here are some simple guidelines on who should be invited to a bridal shower:
1. The bride’s friends.
This is the guest list that you will probably end up with regardless of your wishes because you are usually close to them yourself. However, if some people on this list tend to bring negative energy, they might not be the best choice for party guests.
If you want to have a friend come but she tends to complain about everything and leads the group in negative talk, perhaps it’s better to ask someone else or opt-out altogether so you don’t get stuck wondering why all of her friends always complain when one of their gets married!
It can add too much stress at such an exciting time in your life—especially since you are probably already stressed out about all of the wedding preparations.
2. The groom’s friends.
This usually doesn’t happen, but if the bridal shower is held after the engagement or after a proposal, then it would be appropriate to include males in this part of the celebration.
If you do have male guests at your party, they should not be invited unless they are close enough to qualify as being practically family—you don’t want an awkward situation where girlfriends get jealous or upset that there are men around!
Invite caution when mixing genders, especially when alcohol will be served at the party—things can get out of hand fast without realizing it until it is too late.
3. Family members.
This is a no-brainer. However, take care when inviting family members to your bridal shower. If you have a large family and everyone gets along well it shouldn’t be an issue, but if some people in your family don’t get along or have had fights with the bride before it might be a good idea to leave them off of the list—you can send them a separate invitation for another party.
If the bride works, then she will probably appreciate having her co-workers celebrated too! It can be nice to have someone from work throw her this celebration since it may not always happen that way. However, if you want to opt out of certain coworkers at work, it can be a good idea to keep those that are closer and won’t cause any issues at the party.
5. New bridesmaids.
If they were recently invited to become bridesmaids, then this is an occasion where they should attend! Asking someone to be a part of this part of your wedding journey is very special and important—so make sure that you include them in all of your celebrations.
6. Out-of-town guests.
Being from out of town doesn’t automatically mean that you shouldn’t be invited to a shower, but if there are too many people from out of town attending, then it could make things a bit more complicated for the hostess. If you want to invite people from out of town and this is the bride’s second shower, then there should be a separate reception for guests who aren’t in town for this particular celebration.
7. Guests’ relatives.
If you decide to add other people to your bridal shower, make sure that these other guests know not to ask their family members (i.e., mother-in-law, sister) to come along because it might become too complicated! You can split up the list into two different confirmations or send separate invitations; whatever works best for you and your guest list!
8. Close family friends.
These are usually grandparents and perhaps godparents—and they don’t always need to be invited to a bridal shower. However, if the bride has been very close with these family friends, then it would be nice to invite them since they will probably feel left out otherwise!
9. Coworkers’ significant others.
If the groom is inviting his co-workers and their spouses or significant others, it can become a double celebration for both parties involved—especially since there aren’t many reasons in this day and age to celebrate at work anymore! Inviting coworkers is always more fun when they bring their loved ones along.
Just remember that there should be different guests on each invitation so you can keep track of who all came!
10. Hostesses’ friends.
The hostesses might want some of their friends invited to the bridal shower as well! If this is happening, then just make sure that everyone involved knows how many people are coming and keep track of who’s coming and who isn’t—it could get confusing otherwise.
11. Out-of-town guests’ relatives.
Just like the bride’s family members, if there are too many people from out of town attending, it can become complicated for the hostesses. Some families may appreciate separate celebrations so they don’t feel left out because you should focus on celebrating with your closest family when they are in town.
You can split up the list into two different confirmations or send separate invitations; whatever works best for you and your guest list!
12. Workplace family members.
Sometimes, co-workers invite their family members to celebrate the bride at a bridal shower! While it is nice that they want to have them involved, if everyone comes along then it can become very complicated. Instead of inviting the whole office, just pick one or two close co-workers to bring along.
13. Close relatives.
This would be their grandparents and perhaps godparents who are often invited—and doesn’t always need to be invited to a bridal shower. However, if the bride has been very close with these family friends, then it would be nice to invite them since they will probably feel left out otherwise!